its not your fault

sadi came across these disturbing statistics...

6 girls out of ever 10 in the wrld n 7 out of every 10 in india have been sexually abused atleast once in their life b4 they even turned 14.

SEVEN OUT OF EVERY TEN....makes me want to scream n i feel this sudden rage running thru my blood..i've been researching on this one since long...

SEVEN OUT OF EVERY TEN....if it hasn hit you allow me to elaborate..im not talkin abt slum dwellers n im not talking abt prostitutes...im talkin about the girl child in yer neighbourhood,yer maids daughter,your cousin sister or worse sumone in yer house...n beleive me its happening!it really is!

SEVEN OUT OF TEN...out of which only 1 in the best of the cases speaks up and claims that she has been victimised.

SEVEN OUT OF TEN...and 67% are incest.

SEVEN OUT OF TEN girls suffer from at least 1 of the following:inferiority complex,lack of self confidence,psychic disorders,unhealthy sexual practices,promiscuity,insecurity,hallucinations or even suicidal attitudes..

the problem is clearly stated,the solution is to get psychological help n build the victim's self esteem.However,it aint that simple because there lies a catch...

the victim in most of the cases does not confide in anyone and therefore the vicious circle of harassment and abuse goes on until the culprit faces a threat.

the assaults made by older men on these young girls are very well thought of.most of these criminals have very clear vision in their head and they know how to proceed n minimise their chances of getting caught..they work in these 3 steps:

a.)they win the child's confidence by being friendly,they try n make the child relate to them...one very common trick used is to make the child feel older in terms of making decisions ,discussing issues that parents may refer to as "not meant fer children"...giving the child the liberty to feel older than she is.this results in making the child more inquisitive and curious and also ends up building a bond between the culprit and the child..this is where the trouble starts.
b.)the next step is to invoke certain sexual behaviour...this starts with careless fondling,tickling,touching private parts of the body,kissing or even getting romantically inclined.the child would now react only in two possible ways both of which will have certain elements of discomfort,either she will resent it straight forward ,the chances of which is very bleak because these gestures are proceed very gradually noticing the victim's reaction each time,carefully studying it and also making attempts to make the child feel more wanted and cared for until she stops showing signs of malaise and embarrassment which is the second kind of reaction..
c.)now the trap is set and the criminal has already marked it victory...initially,the child doesn't do anything to stop the criminal,she may meekly object,show a little discomfort or worse seek comfort or enjoy the attention...the secret pleasure of feeling like a woman may also persist...in any of the cases there is a sense of guilt that builds up.the game has been played very cleverly because the child's confidence was won n proceedings were made gradually such that the child holds herself responsible too.


moment this sense of guilt creeps in the victim is an easy meat for the criminal because now she wouldn dare to confess since she realises with every assault that its wrong n her guilt grows stronger.what she doesn realise is that "its not her fault"and that"its even worse to keep quiet about it".

before writing this blog i had promised myself that i will not curse men or call them names....because this isnt about desperate ass holes who need to be castrated and publically hanged by their cock...its about girls whore victimised...its about them realising that they were only 9 or 8 or even 6...it was never their fault and even if ure 30 years old and married its important you speak to someone about it and confide in someone because its something you'll subconsciously always allow to effect you.its for those of you who do not realise that world is full of unreliable servants,horny relatives,disgusting neighbours and horrible family Friends...al these monsters are no one else but sumone you trust with your girl child,sister...the symptoms of sexual abuse being inflicted are very prominent and obvious.in case you have the slightest of the doubt talk to the child n its important that you convince her of the love you feel for her and the security she needs..

peace*

p.s.trust me if im made to be a powerful authority 70% of men would walk around without balls.